Snow White, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Rapunzel. If you are like most of us ‘woman of a certain age’, we all grew up with these Disney princesses. Rosy cheeks, beautiful smiles, a gentle manner- those girls had it all. They each faced dangers and travails- most often caused by another woman’s insecurity, jealousy and resentment, be it a ‘wicked’ stepmother or an evil witch (should I spell that with a ‘b’?). Despite the different locations, etc. , their stories had the same conclusion. Each were rescued by the man of their dreams who, with a magic kiss, swept them off to live happily ever after.
And we grew up with the dream that a knight in shining armor, our very own Prince Charming, would come to our rescue and off we would go to ‘happily ever after’.
Well, I can tell you that the ‘happily ever’ I imagined didn’t include a mortgage payment, cleaning up dog poop, becoming the primary wage earner, or a husband who broke my heart.
I began to ask, so- what happened to Sleeping Beauty’s kingdom? Or Snow White’s?
Then came the new Disney princesses: Moana, Elsa, Belle, Ariel. They are cut from a different cloth. They are independent, brave, and they take a stand for themselves and their families. They take risks, and make very different choices than their fairy tale mothers. These princesses don’t always come from loving, intact families, but perhaps that breeds in them a sense of adventure and a need to prove themselves.
So- did you start out like Snow White, singing, ‘Some Day My Prince will Come’- but now realizing that you’ve been cooped up with him for long months during COVID-19 and that dream is done?
Are you feeling more like Moana? Are you ready to take a stand and (re)discover your own goddess within…reclaiming your own heart?
Is it time to go?
I’ve been both divorced and widowed. I’ve walked this path. If your divorce is not a burden but a blessing, let’s work on it together.
Confused? Anxious? Frightened? Hurt? Resentful? Angry? All of the above? I know how it feels, and I can help.
Moana sings:
I have crossed the horizon to find you.
I know your name.
They have stolen the heart from inside you.
But this does not define you.
This is not who you are.
You know who you are.
I apologize, Disney. This part you got right.
Contact me at adrienne@adriennegrace.com or www.calendly.com/contactAGrace for a free Financial Discovery session and we’ll get you started on a path to your next chapter.
Remember, Marriage is about love; Divorce is about money. Don’t go through it alone.
